Pencil Grip: How and Why to Teach It

Learn how and why to teach proper pencil grip in this blog post and accompanying videos from Jenny Phillips, founder of The Good and the Beautiful homeschool curriculum. 

Then, to practice proper pencil grip with your little ones, download these free pages from our best-selling Doodles & Pre-writing for Littles handwriting books.

What Is a Good Pencil Grip? 

A good pencil grip allows a child to

  • move his or her fingers efficiently rather than the wrist, the whole hand, and the arm;
  • not get fatigued easily; and 
  • write neatly. 

There are a few different pencil grips that work efficiently, but the dynamic tripod grip is the gold standard. It works like this:

The pencil rests against the hand and the middle finger, while the thumb and index finger control the pencil. The other two fingers are tucked under.

As you write, your fingers control the pencil. Having this much control from the fingers makes it easier to write neatly. You have such precise control close to the tip of the pencil. Also notice that as you write, there is very little movement in the wrist or the arm.

Avoid Incorrect Pencil Grip 

What happens when you use an incorrect pencil grip? Try writing with your wrist, hand, or arm and see how much movement is in the wrist. You may even see your arm muscles moving.

Not only does incorrect position fatigue the hand, wrist, and arm muscles, but it also covers the letters and blocks your vision while writing. A correct pencil grip provides a much clearer view of the letters.

Young toddlers don’t usually have the fine motor skills to use the dynamic tripod grip. It’s fine for them to hold their crayons and pencils however it is comfortable. The more children use their hands for things like coloring, play dough, cutting, and playing with blocks, the sooner they will develop the necessary strength and fine motor skills to hold the pencil in a dynamic tripod grip. This usually happens between ages four and a half and seven.

It is very hard to correct a poor pencil grip the longer it is used, so as soon as your child is ready, it is a good idea to work on pencil grip. But pencil grip is usually not a child’s favorite thing to learn! In the video and below, I share a way to teach pencil grip that will make writing more enjoyable.

Teaching Pencil Grip 

Proper pencil grip may feel unnatural to your child at first, but they will get used to it. Many children will start with a correct grip if you help them and then switch to what they are used to. 

How much do you stop your child and have them correct their pencil grip? As often as you can without frustrating them too much. Read your child’s cues and don’t push too hard. 

If you are teaching this skill while doing language arts or handwriting lessons AND having them focus on using the correct pencil grip when they haven’t mastered it, the child is going to get easily frustrated. It can be hard enough for a child to focus on letter formation alone.

If you can, I suggest setting aside all curriculum and focusing just on pencil grip, making it fun until it is mastered—even if that takes you one, two, or three weeks. From there it will be smooth sailing, and the child can focus just on the language arts or handwriting principles without feeling overwhelmed.

Here are two tips to help you succeed:

  1. First, remember to take it step by step. 
    Start with simple dot-to-dot activities or mazes. Try our Doodles & Pre-Writing for Littles, in which a child starts by tracing lines. This is beneficial even if your child is five or six. The point is: learning good pencil grip is hard, so be sure to choose writing activities that are fun. 
  2. Then, transition to words if the child can already write and spell.
    For example, give them a blank piece of paper, tell them a word, and have them write a word that rhymes with it. Start with simple words like CAT and LIP.

Final Thoughts 

Have a child practice writing with proper pencil grip until it is comfortable—before having them take on academic work that is more challenging. It may take some work and reminders, but once a correct grip is solidified, it will be a blessing to your child.

One last piece of advice: If a child has been holding a pencil incorrectly for years, it’s very hard to change. Children can still write quickly and neatly with an incorrect pencil grip, even if it might be a little less efficient and neat. 

You’ll have to determine on an individual basis if changing their position is worth the possible work and frustration. If your child’s pencil grip is working well for him or her, the change is probably not worth the stress it may put on you and the child. Use your best judgment. 

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  • Sandy

    Just a note…the child’s hand in the picture with the globe shows hypermobility in the index finger – you can see how the joint is bent down instead of up, compared to the rest of the pictures. Pushing down on the joint against the pencil like that will cause fatigue and pain in the long run (I know from experience!), but it is very hard to keep the joint pointed up without additional support with hypermobility. You can buy foam “eggs” or other positioners that fit over the pencil to help keep the index finger joint bent up instead of down so the hand stays in the right position and children can write without fatigue or soreness. My 7 year old son’s hypermobile fingers also seem to stay in the correct position better with the fatter pencils commonly used in kindergarten compared to regular pencils. Hope that is helpful to other parents and kids with bendy fingers!

  • Liz

    Could you make a video giving tips on left handed kiddos

    • Customer Support

      Thank you so much for reaching out and for your suggestion, Liz! We will be happy to forward it to management for review but wanted to point out that the Pencil Grip video that was made for kids is not specific to a right or left handed writer. The same tips and practice can be used by all children. We appreciate you taking the time to comment and hope the information is helpful for you and your family.